go big girl what you gon’ do?

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i’m not the only woman with a small frame and large chest, but for most of my adolescence and early adulthood, you would have thought i was sent from mars. when was the last time you saw one of those cute $19.99 two-piece bikinis at target with a 34ddd top and size small bottom? you said never? i know. thankfully, bathing suit shopping was sooooo much easier this year when i discovered that asos has an entire line of swimwear for the dd+ crowd.

my new white swimsuit snaps snugly in the back and the three straps on each side really help to ease the weight of my chest around my neck. this was just a test run, i can’t wait to try more.

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summertime fine: 5 tips for self care

black women need more avenues that lead to healing and self care.  with pervasive violence perpetrated both against us and around us, audre lorde called caring for ourselves an act of “political warfare.” this summer, i challenge sisters to deconstruct the superwoman myth and spend the season nurturing their self-care practices.

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here are just a few tips that i’ve found helpful in creating my regimen:

1.  do what you loved as a child: if you enjoyed it as a child, chances are it will be therapeutic as an adult.  think back to the time when you weren’t worried about your job, student loans, children’s needs or relationship woes.  at about eight-years old, i fell in love with reading, but as an adult, haven’t made much time to enjoy fiction. i’ve gone back to that happy place this summer and selected five books for my summer reading list (blog post coming soon).

2.  travel: every year i stress myself out by trying to plan a big vacation. i stress the details, saving money and worry way too much about using my precious paid vacation days.  inevitably, my self-inflicted stress takes all the joy out of the experience and the trip goes up in flames. this year, i’m over it.  not only did bae and i plan weekend getaways between june and august, but i’ve also joined travel noire’s #tndistrict to get alerts on cheap flights abroad. i’m using my passport this year. you should too.

3.  eat healthy:  or at least eat less processed food and drink more water. there are many chronic health issues that a clean diet can help to resolve. take the the time to plan meals and snacks, eat out less and limit alcohol — you’ll feel 10 times better. admittedly, investing in my health is the hardest struggle i face, but a necessary component of my self-care regimen.

4.  connect with nature:  push away from your desk. go outside. take a walk, visit a park, have lunch, just take a moment to enjoy the fresh air and sun’s vitamin d.  on the weekends, instead of spending all of your valuable daylight hours watching tv or surfing the internet, go for a hike, ride your bike or read a book on your front porch. mindfulness teaches us to be present in every moment, and nature is a great motivator.

5.  be alone: significant others, children and friends are all great, but the relationships take lots of energy to maintain. love yourself as much as you love others, and schedule alone time each week, even if it’s just for 15 minutes. disconnecting from the needs of others and truly focusing on you is a golden experience.

for practical tips on mindfulness and self care, check out how to train a wild elephant: and other adventures in mindfulness by jan chozen bays. also, this article from the feminist wire does a great job placing black women’s self care into a revolutionary context.

be well. xo

weekend wear: lost files via vscocam

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i found these stragglers on my phone from afro punk and thought i’d share. if you can’t tell, i’m obsessed with my ripped bermuda shorts; they’re so beat up, i don’t think they’ll get through another summer.

hope you enjoyed your weekend!

p.s. sorry for the lack of outfit details — everything interesting is vintage or from afrodesiac worldwide.

p.p.s. just so there no misunderstandings, i’m smoking a clove in the last picture.

weekend wear 9.2.14

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happy monday! well, it’s back to work after a restful labor day weekend. i mostly ran errands and got lots of sleep, a welcomed change from my usually busy schedule. this dress is super comfy, and my birkenstocks toned down the “nightclub” feel.  enjoy your week!

dress, on sale at nordstrom (similar here) | shoes, birkenstocks | purse, cole haan (only available on ebay) | sunglasses, h&m

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DSC_0676 DSC_0670 DSC_0669 DSC_0649 DSC_0772 DSC_0794DSC_0636 DSC_0631 DSC_0619 DSC_0615words can’t explain how inspired i was over the weekend at afropunk. the vibe was amazing, hundreds of people of color were in one venue simply loving life, music, culture and each other. the spirit of social activism was in the air as signs were posted that said no to all forms of oppression and people staged a “hands up, don’t shoot” demonstration to protest police brutality. it was undeniably the best experience that i’ve had all summer.

outfit of the day

my favorite bloggers have been going hard in the paint as we approach the end of summer.  i’m feeling plaid, skinny jeans, pumps, complex simplicity and all things j.crew.

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via sea of shoes, karla’s closet, song of style, fashionvibe and style pantry

crush of the week: teff of dank && dapper

you ever see something so amazing that it leaves you speechless? i couldn’t understand why teff of dank && dapper mixed floral prints with a baseball cap.  and topped it off with a fur stole. i  instantly got closer to my computer screen — just to make sure it’s real.  i mean.  i’ts just.  i can’t. *stares at screen with amazement and wonder*

check out her lookbook for more recent outfit posts; however, these winter pics are so dope until they’re worthy of a summer post.

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